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It hurts when you find out someone has used you. Conflicting emotions flood your mind, from disbelief to anger. People take advantage of nice people to advance their own selfish agendas.

So what do you do to resolve it? You do something that is counterculture: you pray for them. Praying for the offender doesn’t cancel the hurt. It acknowledges that the offender is for God to handle, not me. He is in charge of human hearts.

Over time, you will find it in your heart to forgive them. And remember to learn from the pain. Then what you went through has purpose…

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Toxic Forgiveness

Toxic forgiveness means you have acted like you have forgiven someone, but you really haven’t. I’ve been guilty of it. In some instances, it was better to act like all was forgiven just to keep the peace.

This does more harm than good. It causes unresolved anger to turn to bitterness and resentment. These emotions will shorten your life.

It’s okay to not forgive someone until you are ready. Forgiveness happens at the right time. It can’t be forced…

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Paradise

This morning I woke up in paradise. I’m in Cancun to give a speech on what I call three pillars of life. These are three things we need in our lives. They are forgiveness, acceptance and gratitude.

If you are a person who prays, please pray for me that my message resonates with my audience, that someone finds forgiveness in their heart for a past grievance. My speech is tomorrow’s keynote address…

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Mistakes

We make mistakes. Every single one of us does. We are human beings and mistakes are part of our lives.

Past mistakes can haunt us to the point of emotional paralysis. We must find a way to forgive ourselves and move on from them, knowing we will screw up again.

Other people make mistakes, too, and we should not allow their mistakes to cause us to not trust others. We can forgive without forgetting, though…

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Religion

I don’t believe in organized religion. Religion has been used to hurt people. Personally, I follow Jesus and try to live up to the example He set for us. Jesus was a radical, saying things like “love your enemies,” and “pray for those who persecute you.” One thing He didn’t do was bring the world more religion. He showed us the true character of God.

Religion will continue. The rules of religion (no drinking or dancing etc) will remain. I simply study the life of the One who redeemed and restored hurting people…

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Why Forgiveness is Important

Have you been hurt by someone else? Most of us have, and we will be hurt and disappointed by others again. Why should we forgive them? After all, they are the ones who caused the damage.

When we choose to hold onto the hurt and not forgive, it damages us, not the offender. Unresolved conflict becomes bitterness and resentment. We focus on what we have lost, not what remains. Having a strong sense of gratitude reminds us of how much we have. Our focus goes from distressed to blessed. We recognize and remember all of the good in our lives.

Forgiveness is hard, and it takes time. If you try to force it, forgiveness won’t last. You will know when you are ready…

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Interview With Lori Anderson

Every 13 seconds in America there is a divorce. In the time it takes for a couple to recite their wedding vows, there have been nine divorces. Something isn’t working because the divorce rate rises for second and third marriages, reaching as high as 82%!
Lori Anderson married her high school sweetheart. Divorce never entered her mind…until she got a divorce. In 2013, Lori wrote her first book, “Divorce with Grace. A Book of Hope & Healing.” In the book, Lori gets deeply personal, sharing her story of heartbreak, confusion and pain. Throughout the book, Lori gives the reader steps to take in their lives to heal and eventually…thrive after divorce.

Click on the link to watch our interview:

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Broken…

When a car breaks down, we get it repaired. Why don’t we fix ourselves?

All of us are broken in some way. Our lives might look good, even perfect on social media, but we hide our true selves. All of us have past hurts, pain, unresolved issues and great memories. This makes us who we are.

We can fix our emotional brokenness through self-work. People avoid this kind of work because it’s hard to really look at yourself, your flaws and patterns which don’t serve you well. But doing the hard work on yourself is so worthwhile. Take the first brave step to freedom. And keep going…

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My Interview With Vic Feazell, Part 2

Vic Feazell was the District Attorney in McLennan County when he discovered some inconsistencies which aroused his suspicions from the confessions of a drifter named Henry Lee Lucas. Lucas had testified to over 300 unsolved murders, including three in McLennan County. When Vic challenged the Task Force set up by the Texas Rangers, this set off a maelstrom of events which could have landed Vic in prison for 80 years.
Don’t believe in the “Deep State?” You might change your opinion after watching the second installment of our interview. Vic and I cover this, plus forgiveness, how he got into the Guiness Book of World Records and coming full circle in this concluding episode of our time together on The Determined People Podcast.

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From The Inside…

If you believe everything you see on social media, you might think that everyone’s life is perfect. It’s not. We show people the outside, not the pain, the hurts, struggles and worries of life. Remember this when interacting with others. We don’t know what’s going on inside…

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