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Build That Wall!

Boundaries are something many people struggle with. For a period in my life, I couldn’t bring myself to say “no” to anything people asked of me. As a result, I would end up doing a lot of things half-ass. By not giving my best, my self-esteem took a hit.

After doing a lot of self-work (12 years of psychotherapy and counting), I learned it’s okay to say no. Setting boundaries is a form of standing up for yourself. By doing this, I became more effective in the things I said yes to.

Learn to say no. Say yes to whatever is enriching and edifying to your life. The first time is the hardest, but that’s how you grow…

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Learning

When I was in school, I received a report card that showed my supposed knowledge in the subjects I was studying. My grades reflected the first four letters of the alphabet. I mostly received B’s and C’s, along with an occasional A or D. I was labeled as an average student.

I have never considered myself to be average. I refused to accept that label. My ability to connect and communicate with people was not graded, but I excelled in human connection. There are other types of knowledge than book knowledge. Personality and adaptability are more highly correlated with success than intelligence.

My grades went up in college. It turns out I loved to learn. I just needed the right environment.

Whatever grades you received in school, be sure you don’t degrade yourself…

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Narcissists

Have you ever been in a relationship with a narcissist? Narcissist destroy whoever gets in their way.

Narcissists break you down so they can rebuild you into what they want: someone they can control.

By doing this, the narcissist forces us to find our inner strength. We rebuild ourselves and become a stronger version of ourself. We develop into who we are, not who others want us to be.

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, I encourage you to find your strength. Find your voice…

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Age

We can’t stop the aging process, but we don’t have to allow it to ruin our health, either.

Age only exists in your head and your heart. Keep your thoughts on what’s true, right and noble. Exert yourself when you exercise. Eat good foods. Read books that make you think, books that inspire you. By doing these things, you will begin to age in reverse.

Try it! You will become more vibrant, and the lens you view the world through will expand…

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What the???

It’s November 7th and Christmas decorations have been up in stores for almost a month. In August, Halloween stuff filled the aisles. My prediction is that Valentines cards will be available the week of Thanksgiving. I sincerely hope I’m wrong.

We have become so rushed that we miss some important moments in our lives. We get so busy thinking about the next “thing” that we fail to truly enjoy today. I’m the guiltiest one of all.

I encourage you to slow down, just a little, and feel the presence of the day, moment by moment. You might still miss a few things, but odds are you won’t…

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The Determined People Podcast I Interview with Art Acevedo

Art Acevedo has the mindset of a warrior and the heart of a servant leader. Click on the link to watch Part One of our lively interview where you will learn about his family’s immigration from Cuba, what it was like growing up in east Los Angeles, and he will give you a closeup look at the riots after the Rodney King verdict and how it shaped him as a law enforcement officer.

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Reborn

I get it. Change is hard, or is it? The battle is in our mind and our thoughts will dictate our actions.

If you desire to change something in your life, you cannot remain the same person with the same behavior. Think of change as a form of rebirth. You become like the butterfly, released from a dark cocoon, free to fly wherever you want to.

Start by changing one thing, only one. See yourself succeeding in your mind’s eye. Commit to it for one month. Watch what happens…

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