Spirituality

Rules

Think about it. Rules are for around 10% of the population. Most people do what’s right whether there are rules or no rules. It doesn’t matter if someone is watching, they just do the next right thing.

The Golden Rule is a nice one. It tells us to treat others as you would want to be treated. Jesus spoke these words in Matthew 7:12. It’s a good reminder when we feel compelled to lash out at someone. Take a couple of deep breaths and approach it differently.

A rule or law should not be required for us to treat others well. But some people are selfish. They are only thinking of themselves in every situation. The best hope for them lies in a change of their hearts. That’s God’s job, not ours.

Life moves on. More and more rules will be introduced. It’s our choice to live life the right way, rules or no rules…

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Power Within the Church

Where did all the rules of religion come from? Here’s just a few I’m curious about: no dancing, divorced people aren’t allowed to go through communion, no drinking, and if you eat a hamburger on Friday you are going straight to hell!

Jesus taught differently. He taught mercy and compassion. And he spoke with authority. Jesus gave many of the religious leaders fits because some of them had taken it too far. The synagogue was the epicenter of social interaction, and people feared getting kicked out. So they kept their heads down and complied.

It is my belief that the rules are all about power and control. If you break a rule, your guilty conscience will allow us to manipulate you. There might be a monetary benefit involved. Jesus spoke about giving, too. His version doesn’t involve guilt as a motive.

Rules can be taken too far. This is true in business as well. You will have people walking on eggshells trying not to do something wrong. No one can flourish in that environment.

Jesus told us to love God and love others. Two rules. Not always easy to follow, but good enough for me…

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Lent

The season of Lent begins today. After a night of revelry (Mardis Gras), it’s time for some calm. Lent is a time designated for us to grow closer to God.

It might surprise you to know Lent isn’t mentioned in the Bible. It’s a man made construct dating back to the 2nd century. The theme of 40 days follows a biblical pattern.

Some people have thought of Lent in negative ways. I’m “giving it up for Lent” is a common phrase. But that might miss the point. The focus should be on what we gain which includes closeness to God, clarity and wisdom. These are good things.

At the end of Lent we celebrate Easter. The resurrection of Christ is the birth of Christianity. As Christians, all hope lies here.

If you choose to grow during Lent, it is my hope for you that you have a successful outcome. But more important, God is pulling for you, too…

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End Times

In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Dr. Steven Covey encourages us to “begin with the end in mind.” When you adopt this principle, it changes your approach to your life. You become aligned.

Many people are simply drifting through life, taking in whatever gets thrown their way. They aren’t pursuing anything because they don’t know what they want. They had dreams, big dreams, but everything got derailed and they abandoned them. It’s time to put them back on track.

If you have lived any length of time, then you know life will knock you around. But it’s important to remember that you aren’t knocked out. Get up and get moving.

Having a clear, long-term vision sets the stage for success and a meaningful future. You are living in the moment while keeping your focus on your vision. It becomes easy to say no to anything that doesn’t advance your progress. Vision brings you back to life.

Take inventory of what you are good at. Pray about your vision. If you don’t have a vision at present, ask God to open your eyes to His purpose for you. He will. Then it’s up to you to act on it.

Make it happen…

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The Fear of Living

Surveys have shown that 20-30% of people have an intense fear of death. Death is inevitable for everyone. It will get me one day, too. I’m not ready for it and I don’t want it to hurt!

At the same time, I wonder how many people are afraid of living. Playing it safe might bring you some comfort, but you’ve gotta find some things that rev your engine. And you aren’t required to jump out of a perfectly good airplane to get the sense of elation I’m talking about.

You can begin to find more meaning in this life by getting out in your community. If you are a shy person, this takes some intestinal fortitude. But remember, you have survived every uncomfortable situation you have ever faced. Growth happens in the discomfort zone. Those butterflies you feel are exciting.

Your purpose in life won’t be accomplished by sitting home wrapped in bubble wrap. You were born to fly, to soar. It’s time.

You must go after what you want from life. Approach your life with a purposeful mindset. The end of the road will come one day. In the meantime, have no fear of death. Be afraid of not living…

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Feelings or Facts

Have you ever confused facts with feelings? I certainly have. How I feel about something or someone can make objectivity difficult.

We have a good handful of challenges in the United States. One that is in focus right now is immigration. Here’s a fact: it is against the law to sneak into the United States. Here’s a feeling: there’s a lot of good people here illegally who want a better life. They aren’t committing crimes, so why punish them? Do you see the dilemma? It’s a hard one.

Admittedly, I have known and employed people who are in the country illegally. They worked. I fed them and paid them. Everything was fine. These were men who would make solid citizens. There is a solution, but asking Congress to figure something out that works is a tall order. I suggest putting the challenge in the hands of the faith and private sectors. They will figure it out without the fanfare and bluster the politicians give us.

I have seen instances where people use Scripture to justify illegal immigration. This is a perversion of the meaning behind the Scripture they cite. Thus, replacing facts with how you feel. Jesus himself told us to obey the law. And that’s a fact.

We must stop taking sides on the difficult issues. That solves nothing. In fact, it creates a whole new challenge. And how do you feel about that?

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Push Rewind

We live in the digital age. Just like our subconscious minds, everything is recorded and stored forever. We are able to retrieve anything from the past and replay it as often as we like.

When I hear people talk about “back in the day,” it makes me think they believe their best days are behind them. Like this was their time in the sun. But it’s not true. Our best days are ahead of us. We don’t know what’s around the next corner, but I believe it’s something good.

Now I must caution you. I view life through the lens of optimism and unlimited possibilities. It’s how I’m wired. And I realize not everyone sees the world in the same way. That’s okay. This is a big planet and there’s room for everyone.

I encourage you to live each moment fully. The past is a great lesson, but don’t spend too much time reliving it. Your best days lie ahead…

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How Rude!

More and more I’m seeing signs reminding people to be kind to the person waiting on you. There’s even one on the highway that says “Drive safely. Our workers want to go home to their loved ones.” What has happened to manners?

My belief is that these signs are placed for the minority of the population. Most people don’t act rudely unless provoked. Also, it’s my belief that people who lash out unnecessarily are dealing with something else, and they are reacting in a way they wouldn’t normally. It’s my hope, anyway.

No matter what the sign says, people will act the way they choose to act. Signs don’t change the heart. That’s God’s specialty.

There are subliminal signs everywhere. Look people in the eye. You can see hurt, pain and struggle if you are paying attention. In those moments you can be a listening ear if you are willing.

Be willing. Look for the signs…

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My Mind Is Made Up

The self-righteous people love to tell us what to think. They seat themselves on a lofty perch and lord over all. If you challenge them, you do so at great risk of being insulted for being less than worthy of a minute of their time. Give me a break.

As an alternative, engaging in conversations with open-minded people will really get your engine running. No one knows everything, and studies have demonstrated that we are wrong about complex issues more than we are right. It requires humility to admit it when we are wrong. The only requirement necessary to believe you are right all the time is an inflated ego. Inflated like a Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade balloon.

Talk to everyone. Learn from others. Giving people a voice isn’t a threat. Listening to different perspectives will allow us to see the world through different lenses. It might even change your mind…

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Be Happy

We love to be on the winning team, don’t we? The Seattle Seahawks are still reveling in their victory on Sunday night.

Happiness is a moment-by-moment event. We desperately want the feeling to remain, but eventually it fades away. That’s okay. Another happy moment is just around the corner.

When my children were young I loved seeing the smiles on their faces when their team won. Or when they received a high grade on something they worked hard on. Those memories are precious.

But no matter how hard they tried, sometimes my kids were on the losing side of the equation. Those are teaching moments. We must learn how to lose a game gracefully, pick ourselves up, and work harder. Resilience is built during these times.

Every experience we have in this life is worthwhile. All of it can be used. We can keep our attitudes right, even when we aren’t happy. We can be happy for each other every single day. It’s up to us…

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