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Spirituality

How Ya Looking?

People talk a good game. But there are several better ways to take the measure of another person. Let’s examine.

The eyes tell a lot about someone. They show us what is in the heart.

Are you a good poker player? The best poker players watch the body language of the other players. It’s because of this I don’t play poker. If I have two great hold cards, I’m like a puppy dog wagging his tail. It’s unmistakable.

Pay attention to the manner in which people walk. The people who walk fast, keep their heads up and shoulders back are displaying inner confidence. You can’t fake it.

The way we carry ourselves is representative of our inner self image. This is why I encourage others to do the difficult, inside work on themselves. Getting rid of past hurts, mixed messages we believed about ourselves and false beliefs will bring out the best version of yourself.

Do the work…

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Spirituality

Post It

Recently, I had a podcast interview scheduled but the guest backed out at the last minute. From what I’ve observed since, this may have been a good thing.

The person I’m talking about here posts multiple times per day on her social media. This started a couple of months after she cancelled. Her posts have a common theme, herself. There’s nothing wrong with that, it just strikes me as a little self-centered.

I’m aware that I’m sounding judgmental. It’s not judgment. It’s the constant posting pictures of her in a private jet, a luxury hotel room, in a bikini surrounded by men half her age. And the pictures are filtered to the maximum. In reality, I’m hoping she sees the value in herself, not the images she creates. The image she’s creating is nice, but it’s not real.

See yourself through the eyes of God. He created each of us exactly how He wanted us to be. The road to genuine self worth begins here. But you gotta keep working on yourself because the road doesn’t end…

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Spirituality

Disturbing the Peace

Disturbing the peace is a crime. In Texas it is a Class C misdemeanor you can be cited for if you make unreasonable noise in a public place. And along with a fine you look like an idiot.

Growing up in a chaotic, violent home, it wired my brain to adapt to craziness. It became “normal” in my mind. After working through the legacies of my childhood I was able to rewire my brain in a healthy way. Now I keep the crazies out. Peace reigns supreme.

It takes time and a lot of work to jettison the sins of the past. Unresolved trauma shows up in the form of triggers. Sometimes we know why things trigger us. For example, it sends me into orbit when someone lies to me. This is a carryover from childhood, but lying is never good.

If you grew up like me, I encourage you to do the work on yourself. The healthier you get, the more healthy people you will attract into your life. You will set boundaries to protect your peace and well being. And that’s a good thing…

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