Insecure people try to change us into someone they want us to be, rather than encouraging us to be the best version of ourselves we want to grow into. True change happens from within.
We are who we are. No one can take that from us…
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Text Messages
Have you ever sent a text and not gotten a quick reply? Some people get upset when they don’t receive an immediate answer.
Don’t be one of those people. Be secure in knowing the other person might be busy in that moment, maybe their phone isn’t with them, or perhaps a short-term crisis just hit them and they aren’t able to reply.
Texting is for quick check-ins, not real communication. Speaking with the other person is communicating with them…
The Past
Have you ever made a mistake? That’s a loaded question, I know, because all of us have made mistakes. A better question is, what have you done with past mistakes? We can either learn from them, or be stuck in them.
When we learn from past errors, we change our behavior and we grow. Repeating old, unhealthy patterns usually leads to the same results. Change can be hard, I know, but change is required for different outcomes. Embrace the change and move forward. Be focused and be fearless.
One last point about past mistakes. Leave them in the past. You don’t live there anymore…
Start Today!
What are your greatest dreams and ambitions? Perhaps you wanted to write a book or a screenplay. Maybe you want to find a way to serve others. You can do all these things and more. You just have to get started. So why not start today?
Ownership
Take ownership of your life. None of us are victims of our circumstances. If we give up on our dreams and desires, then we become a prisoner in a cell we created.
Our circumstances will change, but our dreams don’t have to die unless we allow them to perish. And that prison cell I mentioned? You hold the key to unlock it. Every day…
Inside Job
All of us have “stuff” we need to work through. Trauma from the past or pain from the present, when left unresolved, don’t just magically disappear. We can even try to hide it by making ourselves look good from the outside. That doesn’t work.
We must work on ourselves from the inside. Get to the heart of the problem. Self-work sucks when you’re doing it, no doubt. If it was easy, everyone would do the work. But the life and peace that await you make it so worthwhile…
Praise
Praise is good. We all love to be recognized for a job well done, and we derive great satisfaction in doing it.
False praise sends a harmful message. Children build resilience when they bounce back from a screw up. If they are given praise for not doing their best, they begin to accept that second best is enough. Participation trophies say “everyone’s a winner,” rather than allowing kids to experience the sting of defeat.
Praise others often when given the opportunity. But only offer praise that’s deserved…
Consistency
When you are comfortable with who you are, you are the same person no matter the crowd you are in…
Why Forgiveness is Important
Have you been hurt by someone else? Most of us have, and we will be hurt and disappointed by others again. Why should we forgive them? After all, they are the ones who caused the damage.
When we choose to hold onto the hurt and not forgive, it damages us, not the offender. Unresolved conflict becomes bitterness and resentment. We focus on what we have lost, not what remains. Having a strong sense of gratitude reminds us of how much we have. Our focus goes from distressed to blessed. We recognize and remember all of the good in our lives.
Forgiveness is hard, and it takes time. If you try to force it, forgiveness won’t last. You will know when you are ready…
Advice
People ask for advice and opinions all the time. The best advice to give someone, whether it’s a friend or your child, is focused on letting them figure out the solution to their problem. Our minds are the greatest gift we received from God. We need to use them.
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