Seek discomfort. Personal growth comes when you relentlessly pursue your dreams and purpose. You will leave some people behind along the way. That’s okay.
You are thinking higher…
Garbage
We remove garbage from our homes regularly, right? If we don’t, things turn ugly. And smelly!
This goes for what we allow to stay in our minds and hearts, too. Bitterness, hate and anger will destroy us from within. These character traits will have a major impact on the way we communicate with others as well.
If you are holding on to anything that’s preventing you from being your best, pray to God to remove them from you. He will, I promise. The self work will not be easy, but anything worthwhile rarely comes to us easily…
Different
All of us feel different from everyone else. We are, and that’s a good thing.
God loves variety, so He made each of us uniquely. As human beings, we try to conform to the crowd so we “fit in.” We were not created to conform. We are here to stand out!
Embrace your uniqueness. Be different on purpose…
Changed
Why do people try to change others into who they want them to be? In the beginning of a relationship, there are things you find attractive about someone, only to feel annoyed by the same things later on. The other person might change into what you want for a while, but eventually they will return to who they are.
Let’s encourage, support and build up others. Work on yourself. I hope you want the best for your significant other, and that best shouldn’t require you changing them. They will evolve and grow on their own…
Appearances
Perceptions are deceptive. We meet people who remind us of someone we know and we automatically think we know how that person is. Or actors get typecast as suitable for only one type of character.
Learn to see through into the heart of others. Be free of judgement as you get to know who they are. Otherwise you might miss something…
Instant
We have instant coffee, microwave food, Instacart grocery delivery, and instant messaging! We have gotten accustomed to living life at the speed of light.
Life takes work. We must apply ourselves to earn what we gain. Nothing is guaranteed, nor should it be. We make incremental progress daily to achieve bigger gains in the future.
The truth is, we only value what we earn, and rarely does anything great happen in an instant…
Emotions
In the past year, I have noticed a change in my emotions, a good change. For years, I stuffed them down because as a child I wasn’t allowed to express any emotions unless they were positive. My parents would force me to put a smile on my face, even when I was raging inside. This carried over into adulthood.
I’m allowing my emotions to surface, and they are complying! Feeling something is good. It’s still a little uncomfortable for me, but growth comes when we visit the discomfort zone…
Transitions
We are in constant motion. Life is not fluid, always going the same direction. Sometimes we have to pivot. It’s okay. Be flexible and adaptable.
Remember, the only constant in life is change…
Wounds
In my book, “Killing My Father Then Finding Him” I wrote a chapter titled “Wounds.” In the chapter, I shared some details of my past trauma. I left quite a bit out, but the reader understood my life was hell in my childhood home.
Our minds are incredible. The trauma of the past surfaces, but the brain knows when to allow it to resurface. Pain returns, but only when we are ready to face it and heal from it.
If you have a painful past, pay attention when memories appear. It means you are ready…
Live Life
Last night, a dear friend of mine from high school days passed away suddenly. Although I hadn’t seen her in 25 years, I still treasure our memories and hold her dear in my heart.
The point is, live your life like there is no tomorrow, because there might not be…
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