We erect walls around ourselves to keep people out. If people get too close and see inside, they might not like us.
When you allow your guard to come down, it encourages others to do the same. We have an opportunity to connect at a deeper level. This creates intimacy. Deep down, don’t we want people we can be close to?
I encourage you to be unguarded. Some people will be judgmental. Those aren’t the people for you. Find your people…
Our ego is tied to our self-image. Egomaniacs have an inflated sense of self, while people with low self-esteem sell themselves short.
Our ego is attached to our desire to control our environment. We like to believe we are in control of our day and our lives. We aren’t. Separate yourself from your desire to control, letting your ego go in the process. It’s very hard to do because this habit has been built over long periods of time. When you do release your desire to control, you are truly free.
Remember, the only thing we have control over is our attitude…
Confident people usually aren’t big talkers. They are the people who get things done. They let their work speak for itself.
Cocky people are full of arrogance. They talk a good game, but accomplish very little.
Which one are you? Strive for quiet confidence. People will notice…
Our brains are wired to look for patterns when we are experiencing something new. Familiarity makes us feel secure. We try to fit the experience into an already-formed neural pathway.
We do this in relationships, too. We invite, usually unknowingly, the same type people into our lives. The person might look different from the rest, but their inner being is the same.
We must do the hard work on ourselves to break unhealthy patterns. If this sounds familiar to you, it is my hope that you find the courage to change…
Today’s culture says, “look at me! Look at how great I’m doing.” I love to celebrate others success. I’m happy when my friends and acquaintances are doing well.
But the ones who get my respect are those who do things quietly. They do the necessary work, and don’t care about getting attention or credit. They simply perform.
Which one are you? It’s certainly something to consider. Humility is attractive. Inflated egos are a turnoff…
What do you believe? There are certain things we inherently believe, such as gravity. If I jump off a building, I’m gonna fall. Every time.
I use self-deprecating humor often. If you knew me, you would know I give myself a lot to work with! But I don’t believe any of it. Therein lies the difference. I am simply laughing at myself.
I believe in God, and I believe in myself. Start there, then continue your list. This is a great exercise to strengthen your beliefs, and your convictions…
To be consistent means to be unchanging in nature. But what about people? Oftentimes people change for the crowd they are in. They are one way at work, another way at home and even another when with friends. You never know who you’re gonna get!
Focus on getting to know who you are at your core being. Find comfort in that, knowing you were created by God exactly how He wanted you to be. Then don’t change yourself to fit in with whoever you are with. Be yourself, consistently…
All of us feel different from everyone else. We are, and that’s a good thing.
God loves variety, so He made each of us uniquely. As human beings, we try to conform to the crowd so we “fit in.” We were not created to conform. We are here to stand out!
Embrace your uniqueness. Be different on purpose…
Why do people try to change others into who they want them to be? In the beginning of a relationship, there are things you find attractive about someone, only to feel annoyed by the same things later on. The other person might change into what you want for a while, but eventually they will return to who they are.
Let’s encourage, support and build up others. Work on yourself. I hope you want the best for your significant other, and that best shouldn’t require you changing them. They will evolve and grow on their own…
Perceptions are deceptive. We meet people who remind us of someone we know and we automatically think we know how that person is. Or actors get typecast as suitable for only one type of character.
Learn to see through into the heart of others. Be free of judgement as you get to know who they are. Otherwise you might miss something…
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