Our brains are wired to look for patterns when we are experiencing something new. Familiarity makes us feel secure. We try to fit the experience into an already-formed neural pathway.

We do this in relationships, too. We invite, usually unknowingly, the same type people into our lives. The person might look different from the rest, but their inner being is the same.

We must do the hard work on ourselves to break unhealthy patterns. If this sounds familiar to you, it is my hope that you find the courage to change…