Everyone has their own set of personal challenges. It is not our responsibility to “fix” anyone but ourselves. Our job is to encourage others in their battles.
Do the work. It’s hard, but it’s worth it…
Author Archives: John Harrell
Oops!
Have you ever said something and instantly regretted it? If we are being honest, we all have. And we will again!
When you find yourself in this position, apologize immediately. Don’t make excuses such as, “I’m having a bad day.” The excuse just takes away from the apology. It doesn’t excuse bad behavior.
Try to take the high road. Always. But when you go low, make amends…
An Uncomfortable Truth
You’ve probably heard the saying, “people are doing the best they can.” That’s usually not true.
Don’t get me wrong. I have great compassion for working families who are doing everything they can to make ends meet and hold it together. I’m talking about the people who have been given great gifts, yet don’t fully utilize them. I’m referring to the people who choose television over human connection. Those who aren’t giving their best.
Everyone procrastinates. Don’t let procrastination become a way of life and miss your true calling…
Failure
We fail at things every day. But how you define failure will determine if you really have failed or not.
Your failures don’t define you unless you allow them to. Having a success mindset means you are willing to accept some failures along the way. When you understand this, you will be free of the fear of failure and you become unstoppable.
What to Say
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you need to say something, but you don’t know what to say? I believe most, if not all of us have been.
In 2008, I learned that a friend of mine’s daughter had just committed suicide. It was heartbreaking. She was sweet, kind, and had a beautiful heart. I knew I had to call him, but I had no idea what I would say. I made the call, telling my friend, “ I don’t know what to say, but I wanted you to hear from me. I love you, and you are in my thoughts.” Truly, I’m sure I stumbled through the words. I was really uncomfortable.
A while later, my friend told me how much the call had meant to him. He also said he was surprised by some of the people who didn’t call.
So, if you find yourself in a situation where you don’t know what to say, remember that less is more. Make the call…
Education
Be a lifelong learner. Read great books, explore art and culture, and listen to others…really listen. Everyone wants to be seen and heard. We can learn something from everyone…
Linda Churchwell Interview I The Determined People Podcast
Linda Churchwell is an award-winning author, speaker, animal advocate and former drug dealer. In our interview, Linda bravely tells the story of her former life dealing drugs, including how it almost cost her her life. Then God stepped in…
Schemes
There are no “get rich quick” or “lose weight without diet or exercise” plans. These offer results without requiring any real effort on our part.
Real satisfaction comes from earning your way through life. Yes, it is challenging to lose weight and get toned, but it’s possible. You can do anything you set your mind to. You just have to want it…
Extra Effort
Modern communication conveniences such as text and email have distanced us from each other. They aren’t really conversations.
Take the time to call people, check in with them. And when someone does something nice for you, write them a thank you note. It takes time, but the time is well spent…
Unlearn
Hate, fear, doubt and worry are learned behaviors. They do not serve us well.
Anything we learned can be unlearned, if we want to change…
