What to Say

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you need to say something, but you don’t know what to say? I believe most, if not all of us have been.

In 2008, I learned that a friend of mine’s daughter had just committed suicide. It was heartbreaking. She was sweet, kind, and had a beautiful heart. I knew I had to call him, but I had no idea what I would say. I made the call, telling my friend, “ I don’t know what to say, but I wanted you to hear from me. I love you, and you are in my thoughts.” Truly, I’m sure I stumbled through the words. I was really uncomfortable.

A while later, my friend told me how much the call had meant to him. He also said he was surprised by some of the people who didn’t call.

So, if you find yourself in a situation where you don’t know what to say, remember that less is more. Make the call…


3 thoughts on “What to Say

  1. sherirbrowergmailcom says:

    AMEN! As someone who lost a child and later a husband, I can speak from experience. I really appreciated those who called…memorable conversations involved statements as simple as “There are no words; I am so very sorry”. “ I wish I could take away your pain”. Please do not be afraid of bringing up the name of the deceased. To those who loved them, the simple mention of their name is a gift! They lived and are remembered. I would like to add that never did I feel anger toward someone who was reticent or shy to say anything. They were most likely simply without words and afraid of saying the wrong thing. Love your blog, John!!

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  2. sherirbrowergmailcom says:

    I’m all in. Far far from perfect. Many mistakes have I made in my life since these losses. But, I would love for someone; ANYONE(!) to learn/love/move forward knowing what I know/have experienced! You are the BEST!!!!\

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